Why Are Women So Complicated?

 

Women will tell you that they are complicated. Men will also tell you that women are complicated, which frustrates and annoys them most of the time. Below are some points from a recent article I read on the subject, written by a woman who did not sign her name, or I would gladly give her credit. Also mixed in are some thoughts from my own experience and from talking to women.
Before I go any further, let me say I love women, and this blog is in no way intended to offend anyone, female or male.
Now to get to it. First of all, men and women are different. No surprise there. Right? But in what ways, other than the obvious physical differences, are we so different? Our minds are different in several ways. Certain areas of a woman's brain is more dense, while other areas of a man's brain are more dense than women's. Okay, I hear you ladies. You're all saying, "We know men are dense!" But for now, let's dispense with the stereotypical put-downs, okay?
So...a woman's brain is wired and organized to better handle multitasking and instinct, where a man's brain is wired more toward performing specific tasks. In other words, guys, "We git 'er done!" Men focus on the task at hand until it's accomplished, and get annoyed if we are distracted or asked to split our attention.
Wife: "Honey, would you watch the bread in the oven, listen for the phone and give the casserole dish back to Linda next door when she comes to get it? I'll be back as soon as I pick Judy up from cheerleading practice.
Husband (muttering under his breath): "I'm never going to get this lawnmower cleaned up and ready for Spring if she keeps adding things to me! I don't have time for all that stuff!"
The fact is, she does "all that stuff" all the time, every day and doesn't think much of it, with the exception of a few times she feels overwhelmed. When that happens, she usually blows up at the guy about not helping out enough, takes a headache pill and lies down, daring anyone to talk to her for a while.
Here are some things that contribute to a woman being "complicated." Ladies, let me know if you agree or disagree. Guys, you can either finish reading this or go back to the task you were involved in.
1. Woman go through a lot of biological things that men don't have to deal with. I won't go into detail here. We all know some of the things I'm talking about. If men had to deal with all these changes, we'd be pretty complicated too. We'd probably kill someone.
2. Women are emotional creatures, and think with their hearts, feelings, and emotional reactions more than with cold reasoning. Frankly, these are good tools for women. They add up to a highly defined instinct that tells them when something is amiss, without stopping to reason what the problem is. Emotional reaction has a much quicker response time than reasoning, often, and it allows women to make snap decisions that can save them and their families from chaos. Then again, these emotional reactions can cause chaos at times, too. It's a trade-off - a downside to the benefits.
3. Women multitask better, and they need to. They are forever juggling responsibilities to family and profession. They have to be many places at once in their minds to get it all done effectively. They are wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, taxi driver, delivery service, volunteer, organizer...and the list goes on. It never stops. Men often wonder why women worry about all those "little details," but let them drop the ball on one or two, and we men are asking, "Why didn't this get done?"
4. Little things do mean a lot to women. Things men rarely give any thought to are very important to women. Men don't have to worry about the "little things" because women do. That's the balance. Yet men just say "Women are too complicated."
5. Women have a hard time letting go of the past. Yeah, some men do too, with something major, but women live half in the past and half in the present, comparing then to now, etc. The past never leaves, especially if a woman's been done wrong. "That won't happen again!"
6. Women compare. They compare themselves to others, their families to other families, their habits to those of others, etc. They can be a bit judgmental, too, because of all the comparing. But they criticize themselves more than anyone else.
7. Women expect a lot. They do a lot, accomplish a lot, and they expect the same from those around them, especially the one with which they are in a relationship.
8. There is no right answer. If they ask a question, especially of a man, they don't really want an answer. They want attention, caring, and a sounding board. If they ask you a question, men, just wait a few seconds and they'll probably answer it themselves before you get a chance to say anything. "Does this make me look fat?" pause...pause... "I'm going to wear something else!"
Man: "Whew!"
And if they have a problem, emotional or otherwise, they don't ever seem to want a man to solve it for them. That makes women seem very complicated, but in fact, they already know the solution. They are working through their feelings about it, and just want you to listen...and care.
All these things put together can make a women seem very complicated to a man, and even to other women sometimes. There is one thing that ties it all together, though - one concept that will perhaps make women seem a bit less complicated. They deal with every part of their lives with their emotions and instincts. They are passionate about everything they do. Where men are wired and trained to suppress emotion and think. reasoning things out, getting down to the bare minimum needed to get a job done with little fanfare, women use their emotions to guide them, as well as enjoy their very complicated lives. Women are "complicated" because they have to be. Men are less "complicated" because it best suits what they are wired for.
So let's stop talking about "equality" and simply enjoy ourselves for what we are. Yes, we ARE equal...but different. Let's keep it that way.
Okay, ladies. Here is where you get the chance to tell me I'm right on, or full of crap - one of the two. Facebook me your thoughts!